I Wish I Knew

Now that I'm older I feel that I was left too much on my own growing up. I did not receive the guidance I needed given the personality I had. So now I am finding myself mothering me the best way I know how. It can be confusing and difficult to mother ones self especially when you need to mother a young child in a grown woman's body that is not separate from yours. 

Read this and it has certainly helped. Better if it had been taught to me as a child.

Boost Self Confidence  

- Take note of your achievements and strengths.

- Tell yourself you're awesome.

- Walk tall, and sit up straight.

- Groom yourself, and dress nicely.

- Don't think about the negative things.

- Stop worrying.

- Live healthier.

- Hang out with supportive people.

- Don't be too sensitive.

http://ph.she.yahoo.com/tips-to-boost-confidence-014232517.html

"Your talent is God's gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God." -Oprah

Help

Sharing a simple but worth pondering quote from a successful businessman, John Gokongwei:

He said his biggest learning experience was: “You can’t do everything by yourself.”

Working for the next couple of days will mean time to learn, time to earn, time to grow, time to glorify and time to rest from activities I usually enjoy and feel blessed to be doing.

Television Women - Lynette Scavo

Lynette Scavo is the always tired but very witty wife and mom. She is smart and good at work. She is so good she tends to emasculate her husband. She finds it difficult not to correct her husband that she almost loses him. She finds it difficult not to correct her children as well and as much as she wants them out of the house, they find ways to get back in. Not a good home maker others might say, but her family relationships say otherwise. 

 

 

Wanting to be Bree I did not like Lynette at the beginning. She seemed cluttered, unhappy and unfulfilled with a life that seemed to me was good. A husband who works. Children to take care of. A home to clean. 

But as the show progressed, I realized there was a Lynette in me. A Lynette who wanted more than just to be wife, mother and home maker. A Lynette who could do more and wanted to do more. 

She was not a bad wife nor a bad mother for not wanting to be home to take care of the house and her husband with the children all day. She was simply a woman who could do more and be more. Not being able to bring that out frustrated her.

I truly admire her. Cluttered and all she knows what really is important in her life, and the rest are just peripherals.

On This Rainy Monday Morning

On this rainy Monday morning, I pray that everyone be safe from harm.

God loves you, and He does not want you to be tormented with fear or anything else. - Joyce Meyer. 

BE SAFE EVERYONE.

Sunday's Reflections

My favorite Bible entry for the past week.

 

Solomon's wisdom "Give your servant, therefore, an understanding heart to judge your people and to distinguish right from wrong." 1 Kings 4:9

Was he not already full of wisdom by simply asking asking God for it.

A good read for a reflective Sunday from (in)courage. 

http://www.incourage.me/2013/09/confessions-of-an-emotion-stuffer-downer.html

Quite A While

So much has happened since my last entry. 

Been busy with work that lasted more than a week and still is going. Had a mid-year vacation with my family. 

Bliss is what it is! 

Excited to write down my thoughts on so many things.

 

Another Aspect of My Life

I'll be working well into the week. In light of this, parking my Television Women posts, instead sharing my thoughts and lifted quotes on work using excerpts from past posts.

Tweet from Joel Osteen When you honor God, like a magnet, you’ll draw the blessing in. You won’t have to go after it; it will come to you.

Work gives you a sense of being you at your best.

Tweet from Oprah World Four things for success: work & pray, think & believe. -Norman Peale

It, like everything else in ones life, must not be something that one does because one has to do it. It must be something one does because one feels it in ones deepest core that one needs to do to live a life that is full.  

"You must really learn your craft. You go to workshops and you invest in it, so that when someone calls you any time of the day, you can deliver." - Joel Torre

Working for the next couple of days will mean time to learn, time to earn, time to grow, time to glorify and time to rest from activities I usually enjoy and feel blessed to be doing.

Television Women - Bree Van De Kamp

Bree Van De Kamp is a perfect wife and mom. She is always nicely and neatly dressed. Her home is clean and beautiful. Her husband is a hard working and well-known doctor. Her children are in the top of their class. She cooks from scratch and eats dinner with the whole family every night.

 

A dream in my head played wonderfully on television. 

But for those who watched the famous television show, Desperate Housewives, know  that it isn't all that perfect. In fact, it is very far from perfect. 

Bree Van De Kamp is not a perfect wife and mom. Her husband and children are frustrated and just want her to be more normal. Normal meaning less clean around the house and dress the family more casually. Something akin to Lynette's style much to Bree's horror. Her obsessive-compulsive behaviour allow her to do well activities, but not relationships.  

I am not at all like Bree, but I like her because I can relate to why she does what she does and I like how she does things.  

I want the white picket fence, floral dresses, happy and successful husband owing those two qualities to me, and clean, happy and successful children. I want it all with a ribbon tied on top.

This obsession may partly be because of the following:

1. I didn't have that as a child. 

2. I have always been fascinated by the American lifestyle during 

    the 50's and 60's. My Lola Marietta and Lola Nanny's lifestyle 

    back in the early to mid 1900's here in the Philippines. 

3. I am obsessive-compulsive and want everything magazine - 

    perfect. 

Unfortunately for me, but fortunately for the people who live with me, I just don't have the same discipline and determination as Bree does. Like her though, I am an imperfect person looking to be perfect and having a perfect life.

Television Women

They’re not real people. They’re characters played by wonderful actresses in television. Nonetheless, they are my heroines. Depicting beauty, intelligence, sometimes realistic awkwardness, but always graceful in their own ways.

Bree Van De Kamp played by Marcia Cross on Desperate Housewives

“Well, we could do it gently. We could tell him about it over coffee and pastry.”

I like that she is beautiful, intelligent, proper, and I relate very much to her obsessive compulsive behavior.

Lynette Scavo played by Felicity Huffman on Desperate Housewives

“I'll look as soon as I get back from the store.”

I like that she is pretty, intelligent, funny, and I relate to very much to her neurotic mommy ways.

Shiela played by Erinn Hayes on Guys with Kids 

She’s a little bit like Bree, only younger, modern and less dark. I like that she is gorgeous, intelligent, put together, and I relate very much to her always on-top-of-things manner.

Lady Mary Josephine Crawley played by Michelle Dockery on Downton Abbey

 











“Good bye then, and such good luck!”

I don’t like how she handles situations with that privileged look on her face. I don’t like how beautiful she is whatever she is wearing or doing. I don’t like the way she shows her vulnerability only to people she truly respects. I don’t like how she does so many things wrong, and yet people still forgive and adore her.

She’s one of those women who can’t help but be pretty and knows it. To top it off she has smarts, and she’s not afraid to use it. She may think she’s traditional, but she’s actually quite modern in her ways.

I don’t relate to her one bit. I don’t like how I like her despite all the things I don’t like about her. 

Lady Edith Crawley played by Laura Carmichael on Downton Abbey

I understand her. I know exactly what she goes through. I pity her.

Despite all that she goes through and sometimes awkwardly and painfully failing to rebel against all of it, she tries her best to be herself.

To an extent she tells the story of my life.  

Claire Underwood played by Robin Wright on House of Cards

“Such a shame, all that hard work.”

She’s beautiful. She’s intelligent. She’s successful.

She’s beautiful. She can wear anything she wants in and outside her home and look stunning. She knows she’s beautiful and is not afraid to use this for a greater cause.

She’s intelligent. She’s resourceful and knows how to use the resources she can get. She knows what to do and when to do it. She does things with grace all the time.

There’s a side to her only she knows.

No woman can not be successful if she were as beautiful and intelligent as Claire.   

She's a little bit like Lady Mary, but I don't not like her. 

Looking back at what I’ve written, it seems I relate to opposing women in the same show. I suppose there are always two sides to each of us. One that seems perfect. One that seems imperfect. Both very real and possibly living in the same body.  

Pictures courtesy of Google Images 

Be Yourself

A quote from Paulo Coelho 

"Don’t try to be useful. Try to be yourself: that is enough, and that makes all the difference."

Learn Your Craft

A nice quote from a good actor to begin our work week:

"Kailangan pag-aralan mo talaga yung craft mo. You go to workshops and you invest in it, para any time of the day na tawagin ka, you can deliver." - Joel Torre

"You must really learn your craft. You go to workshops and you invest in it, so that when someone calls you any time of the day, you can deliver." - Joel Torre